8.I.01 All Squinted and Confused 10

October 22nd, 2018, 12:01 am

Author Comments:

Gibson Twist, August 18th, 2018, 11:13 am

Full disclosure, I'm decades into not wanting to have biological children, and there has never been a single thing that's changed my mind for even a moment, despite every god damned person ever telling me I would. Some of us just don't want kids, and it's not an indictment of anyone who does (although wanting kids is malarkey, they're so gross.)

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User Comments:

Guest, October 22nd, 2018, 3:31 pm

Doesn't getting drunk all the time get old with time? And even then the body does and you feel like shit.

Shaz, October 22nd, 2018, 8:14 pm

Children... nope. I never played with dolls as a little girl. I have never gone goo-goo-ga-ga over babies. I had difficulty interacting with other children when I WAS a child myself, and it's never gotten better. I'm in my 40s and the majority of the time I *still* have absolutely no idea what a child is saying when they're talking; I simply cannot decipher their meanings while they are still learning how to pronounce words properly. But...I don't hate kids, however awkward I may be around them. I'm an absolute sucker anytime a kid rings my doorbell and asks for donation for just about ANYTHING. Seeing children happy makes me immensely happy. I just have never wanted one of my own.

The only part of 'not having kids' I regret is... is there a word for that feeling of missing something you know you will never have? Whenever my husband (who thankfully also never wanted kids!) & I visit my parents, and we're fixing dinner, or playing games, or, well, doing anything, really... I 'miss' the fact that my husband & I will never have kids to visit us like that when we're older.

But I've always thought that having a baby is a decision of utmost import. If that baby isn't something you really REALLY want, if you don't ALREADY love it NO MATTER WHAT, if you aren't completely prepared (mentally, physically, emotionally, monetarily) for all the travails that will accompany having a baby, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, if raising that child and seeing them develop over the years and become their own person isn't your biggest interest, then it's a massive disservice to that possible new life to even consider having a baby. You don't have a baby for yourself. You have a baby for the person that baby will become.

Ahem...wow where did all that come from? Enough speechifying. Back to enjoying the comic!

Kit T. (Guest), October 22nd, 2018, 9:59 pm

Well, the way I see it...
Having children used to be an accomplishment, back when overpopulation wasn't a thing.

Now it's just a problem. But if someone is gonna have kids, then they need to ready for everything that means.

Also seconding Shaz's third paragraph.

atma (Guest), October 23rd, 2018, 7:10 am

Yeah, I don't think there's any reason to have chidlren if you don't want them. But there's really no need to make up reason not to have children either. Have them if you want, don't if you don't. There's no such thing as having a little children, it's very binary :)

Guest, October 23rd, 2018, 3:02 pm

"I still want to do things" What things? All he does is get drunk and be depressed. He's completely aimless. He has no goals. He's currently on a bus to nowhere and he's not even enjoying the ride much.

I agree he should get his shit together first but he's speaking as if he has a dream or a career or a... anything.

NenaMataHari, October 23rd, 2018, 4:44 pm

@Shaz I agree. Besides, never have kids if you don't truly want them. Kids know when they're not wanted and they will forever feel that nobody else wants them around either. Never put such a curse on an innocent soul like that.

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